“Dad! I scored a 94% in the board!”
“Oh. Hmm. Chalo koi baat nahi beta. Well done”
He thought to himself, “Is this not enough? It’s just a 6% less than the PERFECT score. Isn’t this a big achievement? Maybe, it’s not. Or maybe, I can just NEVER pull off their expectations well. I’m always less for them. My good is never good enough. I always fail. And I always will.”
If I don’t win a competition, am I failure? If I don’t fare well in a exam, am I one? No! Not for me atleast. And at times, I’m the only one believing in it. When the world tells me I failed, I refuse to believe. I’m too young to be declared a failure, people. Too young to be told that I am ‘nothing’. That I am a loser. That I won’t be able to do anything with my life. That I’ll always be a liability. That I’ll never succeed in anything. And why? Because I didn’t clear one exam or didn’t fare well enough in my class 12? Is that all that decides my success/failure? If you think it does, grow up and get a life!
F.A.I.L.U.R.E. . What does this random combination of 7 different alphabets mean to you? To me, the only worth this word holds is that it made it to the Oxford Dictionary. Wallah! Even failure succeeded in doing this. And maybe in doing one more thing- making you feel miserable, useless and sad.
But tell me one thing.
What did you fail at? Failed an exam? Failed an entrance? Failed winning a game?
While we are very young we are taught winning and losing is all part of the same game. They’re the two sides of the same coin. However, I guess they teach us too early. We forget to keep this is mind when we actually need to. If you fail an exam, doesn’t mean you cannot appear for it again. If you failed an entrance, maybe you can re-appear or look for alternatives. I’m sure one exam is not worthy enough to break the person that you are. It’s no big deal! If you failed winning a game, show some sportsman spirit man! Get up right back, brush your clothes, get set and go! Keep going till you finally achieve it. Keep going till you know you are there. Because there is no one who can stop you from crossing the finish line other than you yourself.
Failed getting a good college?
Think to yourself, is getting a good college the ultimate aim of your life? Will a good college guarantee you all the success in life, more importantly all the happiness you deserve? If you think it does, I’m sorry it doesn’t. It sure proves to be a better launching pad for your further journey, but some planes crash straight back in the ground. It sure proves to be a zipper to people’s mouths who ever condemned you or undermined your capabilities, but doesn’t take away the pride in your parents’ eyes when they finally see you succeed. It sure makes you another Sharmaji’s beta who’s example will be given in every household of the neighbourhood, but it doesn’t lead to your parents disowning you if you don’t.
We all have an infinite names to quote when we talk of people who didn’t do well in the first go but finally, ultimately, they succeeded. You know why? Because no taunt involving Sharmaji’s or Guptaji’sor Mehraji’s son was big enough and strong enough to move them an inch from where they were and where they wanted to be. Nothing mattered to them more than the goal they had set. Nothing seemed to come to a standstill despite all the so-called ‘failure’. And you know what? If you didn’t score well in the first go, you just enhanced your chances to be like one these people! You are more likely to be like these great people than any of them who scored well. And considering everything, you are equally likely to succeed as anyone else.
Your work is to aim. Aim things you really want.
Your work is to dream. Dream big and of achieve it.
Your work is to work. Work hard as you can.
You work is to stay. Stay on the ground and thrive.
Your work is to believe. Believe in yourself and your dream.
Your work is to not give up. Never give up because you faced some lows.
Your work is to focus. Focus on what will help you achieve your goal.
Your work is to celebrate. Celebrate the victory as it comes to you with the greatest zeal.
Your work is to treat. Treat your friends and family (I hope I’m your friend, here 😉 )
And your work is to be happy. Happy about the things that went right and the things that went left. Because nothing in this world goes wrong. Wrong is not even a direction! Unless your brain creates it, ofcourse.